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دعاء من أصابته مصيبة ما من مسلم تصيبه مصيبة فيقول كما أمره الله إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون، اللهم أجرني في مصيبتي واخلف لي خيراً منها إلا أخلف الله له خيراً منها (رواه مسلم632/2) دعاء الهم والحزن ما أصاب عبداُ هم و لا حزن فقال : اللهم إني عبدك ابن عبدك ابن أمتك ناصيتي بيدك ماضِ في حكمك ، عدل في قضاؤك أسالك بكل اسم هو لك سميت به نفسك أو أنزلته في كتابك ، أو علمته أحداً من خلقك أو استأثرت به في علم الغيب عندك أن تجعل القرآن ربيع قلبي ، ونور صدري وجلاء حزني وذهاب همي " . إلا أذهب الله حزنه وهمه وأبدله مكانه فرحاً رواه أحمد وصححها لألباني.لكلم الطيب ص74 اللهم إني أعوذ بك من الهم والخزن ، والعجز والكسل والبخل والجبن ، وضلع الدين وغلبة الرجال ". كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يكثر من هذا الدعاء دعاء الغضب أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم رواة مسلم .2015/4 دعاء الكرب لاإله إلا الله العظيم الحليم ، لاإله إلا الله رب العرش العظيم ، لاإله إلا الله رب السموات ورب العرش الكريم متفق عليه قال صلى الله عليه وسلم دعاء المكروب : اللهم رحمتك أرجو فلا تكلني إلى نفسي طرفة عين ِ وأصلح لي شأني كله لاإله إلا أنت الله ، الله ربي لاأشرك به شيئاً صحيح . صحيح سنن ابن ماجه(959/3) قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم :" دعوة النون إذ دعا بها وهو في بطن الحوت :" لاإله إلا أنت سبحانك إني كنت من الظالمين لم يدع بها رجل مسلم في شئ قط إلا استجاب الله له . صحيح .صحيح الترمذي 168/3 دعاء الفزع لا إله إلا الله متفق عليه ما يقول ويفعل من أذنب ذنباً ما من عبد يذنب ذنباً فيتوضأ فيحسن الطهور ، ثم يقوم فيصلي ركعتين ، ثم يستغفر الله لذلك الذنب إلا غُفر له صحيح صحيح الجامع 173/5 من استصعب عليه أمر اللهم لا سهل إلا ما جعلته سهلاً وأنت تجعل الحزن إذا شئت سهلاً رواة ابن السني وصححه الحافظ . الأذكار للنووي ص 106 ما يقول ويفعل من أتاه أمر يسره أو يكرهه كان رسول الله عليه وسلم إذا أتاه أمر ه قال :الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات و إذا أتاه أمر يكرهه قال : الحمد الله على كل حال صحيح صحيح الجامع 201/4 كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا أتاه أمر يسره أو يُسر به خر ساجداً شكراً لله تبارك وتعالى حسن . صحيح ابن ماجه 233/1) مايقول عند التعجب والأمر السار سبحان الله متفق عليه الله أكبر البخاري الفتح441/8 في الشيء يراه ويعجبه ويخاف عليه العين إذا رأى أحدكم من نفسه أو ماله أو أخيه ما يعجبه فليدع له بالبركة ، فإن العين حق صحيح. صحيح الجامع 212/1.سنن أبي داود286/1 . اللهم اكفنيهم بما شئت رواه مسلم 2300/4 حاب ، وهازم الأحزاب ، اهزمهم وانصرنا عليهم رواه مسلم 1363/3 دعاء صلاة الاستخارة قال جابر بن عبدالله رضي الله عنهما : كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، يُعلمنا الاستخارة في الأمور كلها كما يعلمُنا السورة من القرآن ، يقول : إذا هم أحدكم بالأمر فليركع ركعتين من غير الفريضة ، ثم ليقل : اللهم إني أستخيرك بعلمك ، و أ ستقدرك بقدرتك ، وأسألك من فضلك العظيم فإنك تقدِرُ ولا أقدِرُ ، وتعلم ولا أعلم ، وأنت علام الغيوب ، اللهم إن كنت تعلم أن هذا الأمر -يسمي حاجته - خير لي في ديني ومعاشي وعاقبة أمري - أو قال : عاجلة و اجله - فاقدره لي ويسره لي ، ثم بارك لي فيه ، وإن كنت تعلم أن هذا الأمر شر في ديني ومعاشي وعاقبة أمري - أو قال : عاجله و أجله - فاصرفه عني واصرفني عنه ، واقدر لي الخير حيث كان ، ثم أرضني به رواه البخاري146/8 كفارة المجلس من جلس في مجلس فكثر فيه لغطه ؟ فقال قبل أن يقوم من مجلسه ذلك : " سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك ، أشهد أن لا إله إلا أنت أستغفرك وأتوب إليك . إلا غفر له ما كان في مجلسه ذلك . صحيح. صحيح الترمذي 153/3 دعاء القنوت اللهم أهدني فيمن هديت ، وعافني فيمن عافيت ، وتولني فيمن توليت ، وبارك لي فيما أعطيت ، وقني شر ما قضيت ، فإنك تقضي و لا يقضى عليك ، إنه لا يذل من واليت ، تباركت ربنا وتعاليت صحيح. صحيح ابن ماجه 194/1 اللهم إني أعوذ برضاك من سخطك وأعوذ بمعافاتك من عقوبتك ، وأعوذ بك منك لا أحصي ثناء عليك ، أنت كما أثنيت على نفسك " صحيح. صحيح ابن ماجه 194/1 اللهم إياك نعبد ، و لك نُصلي ونسجد ، وإليك نسعى ونحقدُ ، نرجُو رحمتك ، ونخشى عذابك ، إن عذابك بالكافرين ملحق ، اللهم إنا نستعينك ، ونستغفرك ، ونثني عليك الخير ، ولا نكفرك ، ونؤمن بك ونخضع لك ، ونخلع من يكفرك . وهذا موقف على عمر رضي الله عنه . إسناد صحيح . الأوراد171/2-428 مايقال للمتزوج بعد عقد النكاح بارك الله لك ، وبارك عليك ، وجمع بينكما في خير صحيح. صحيح سنن أبي داود 400/2 اللهم بارك فيهما وبارك لهما في أبنائهما رواه الطبراني في الكبير وحسنه الألباني. آداب الزفاف ص77) على الخير والبركة وعلى خير طائر رواه البخاري 36/7 ( طائر : أي على أفضل حظ ونصيب ، وطائر الإنسان : نصيبه) ما يقول ويفعل المتزوج إذا دخلت على زوجته ليله الزفاف يأخذ بناصيتها ويقول : اللهم إني أسألك من خيرها وخير ما جلبت عليه وأعوذ بك من شرها وشر ما جُلبت عليه حسن . صحيح ابن ماجه 324/1 الدعاء قبل الجماع لو أن أحدكم إذا أراد أن يأتي أهله قال : بسم الله ، اللهم جنبنا الشيطان وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا ، فإنه يقدر بينهما ولد في ذلك لم يضره شيطان أبداً متفق عليه الدعاء للمولود عند تحنيكه كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، يؤتي بالصبيان فيدعو لهم بالبركة ويحنكهم صحيح . صحيح سنن أبي داود 961/3) (التحنيك : أن تمضغ التمر حتى يلين ، ثم تدلكه بحنك الصبي) ما يعوذ به الأولاد أعوذ بكلمات الله التامة ، من كل شيطان وهامه ، وكل عينِ لامه رواه البخاري الفتح 408/6 من أحس وجعاً في جسده ضع يدك على الذي تألم من جسدك وقل : بسم الله ، ثلاثاً ، وقل سبع مرات : أعوذ بالله وقُدرته من شر ما أجد وأحاذر رواه مسلم1728/4 مايقال عند زيارة المريض ومايقرأ عليه لرقيته لابأس طهور إن شاء الله رواه البخاري 118/4 اللهم اشف عبدك ينكأ لك عدواً ، أو يمشي لك إلى جنازة صحيح . صحيح سنن أبي داود 600/2 مامن عبد مسلم يعود مريضاً لم يحضر أجله فيقول سبعة مرات : أسأل الله العظيم رب العرش العظيم أن يشفيك إلا عوفي صحيح . صحيح الترمذي 210/2 بسم الله أرقيك من كل شئ يؤذيك ، من شر كل نفس ، وعين حاسدة بسم الله أرقيك ، والله يشفيك صحيح . صحيح الترمذي 287/1 أذهب الباس ، رب الناس ، إشف وأنت الشافي لاشفاء إلا شفاء لايُغادر سقماُ رواه البخاري الفتح 131/10 تذكرة في فضل عيادة المريض قال صلى الله عليه وسلم : إن المسلم إذا عاد أخاه لم يزل في خرفة الجنة صحيح. صحيح الترمذي 285/1 قيل ما خُرفة الجنة ؟ قال : جناها . وقال صلى الله عليه وسلم :" مامن مُسلم يعود مُسلماً غُدوة ، إلا صل عليه سبعون ألف ملكِ حتى يُمسي ، وإن عاده عشيةَ إلا صلى عليه سبعون ألف ملكِ حتى يُصبح وكان له خريف في الجنة صحيح . صحيح الترمذي 286/1 مايقول من يئس من حياته اللهم اغفر لي وارحمني وألحقني بالرفيق متفق عليه اللهم الرفيق الأعلى رواه مسلم1894/4 كراهية تمني الموت لضر نزل بالإنسان لايدعون أحدكم بالموت لضر نزل به ولكن ليقل : اللهم أحيني ماكنت الحياة خيراً لي ، وتوفني إذا كانت الوفاة خيراً لي متفق عليه من رأى مببتلى من رأى مُبتلى فقال : الحمد لله الذي عافاني مما ابتلاك به ، وفضلني على كثير ممن خلق تفضيلاً لم يُصبه ذلك البلاًء صحيح. صحيح الترمذي 153/3 تلقين المحتضر قال صلى الله عليه وسلم : لقنوا موتاكم قول : لاإله إلا الله رواه مسلم 631/2 من كان آخر كلامه لاإله إلا الله دخل الجنة صحيح . صحيح سنن أبي داود 602/2 الدعاء عند إغماض الميت اللهم اغفر ( لفلان) ورفع درجته في المهديين واخلفه في عقبه في الغابرين واغفر لنا وله يارب العالمين وافسح له في قبره ونور له فيه رواه مسلم 634/2 مايقول من مات له ميت مامن عبد تصيبه مصيبة فيقول :" إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون، اللهم أجرني في مُصيبتي واخلف لي خيراً منها . إلا آجره الله تعالى في مصيبته وأخلف له خيراً منها رواه مسلم 632/2 الدعاء للميت في الصلاة عليه اللهم اغفر له وارحمه وعافه واعف عنه وأكرم نُزُله . ووسع مُدخلهُ . واغسله بالماء والثلج والبرد ، ونقه من الخطايا كما ينقى الثوب الأبيض من الدنس ، وأبدله داراً خيراً من داره ، وأهلاً خيراً من أهله وزوجاً خيراً من زوجه وأدخله الجنة وأعذه من عذاب القبر ( ومن عذاب النار ) رواه مسلم 663/2 اللهم اغفر لحينا وميتنا ، وشاهدنا وغائبنا ، وصغيرنا وكبيرنا ، وذكرنا وأُنثانا ، اللهم من أحييته منا فأحييه على الإسلام ، ومن توفيته منا فتوفه على الإيمان ، اللهم لاتحرمنا أجره ولاتضلنا بعده صحيح. صحيح ابن ماجه 251/1 اللهم إن فلان بن فلان في ذمتك ، وحبل جوارك فقه من فتنة القبر وعذاب النار ، أنت الغفور الرحيم صحيح . صحيح ابن ماجه 25/1 اللهم عبدك وابن عبدك وابن امتك إحتاج إلى رحمتك ، وأنت غني عن عذابه ، إن كان مُحسناً فزده في حسناته ، وإن كان مُسئاً فتجاوز عنه واه الحاكم ووافقه الذهبي . انظر أحكام الجنائز للألباني ص159 وإن كان الميت صبياً اللهم أعذه من عذاب القبر حسن . أحكام الجنائز للألباني ص161. اللهم اجعله فرطاً وسلفاً ، وأجراً موقوف على الحسن - البخاري تعليقاً عند ادخال الميت القبر بسم الله وبالله ، وعلى ملة رسول الله ( أو على سُنة رسول الله ) صحيح. صحيح الترمذي 306/1 مايقال بعد الدفن كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا فرغ من دفن الميت وقف عليه فقال :" استغفروا لأخيكم وسلوا له التثبيت فإنه الآن يُسأل دعاء زيارة القبور السلام عليكم أهل الديار ، من المؤمنين والمسلمين ويرحم الله المُستقدمين منا والمستأخرين وإنا ، أن شاء الله بكم للاحقون رواه مسلم 671/2 دعاء التعزية .. إن لله ماأخذ وله ماأعطى . وكل شئ عنده بأجل مُسمى ...فلتصبر ولتحتسب متفق عليه

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مُساهمةموضوع: The mannish woman   The mannish woman Emptyالسبت 13 فبراير 2016 - 23:49


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All praise is due to Allah Who has created (everything) and then perfected it and He Who has measured (preordainments for everything even to be blessed or wretched) and then guided (i.e. showed mankind the right as well as the wrong paths, and guided the animals to pasture) and He Who made the two sexes; male and female. And prayers and peace of Allah be upon the Messenger of guidance and upon his family and companions and whoever followed the guidance.

 

In this age, there is a kind of women that opposed Allah’s Fitrah (nature) with which He has created mankind; and characterized with manners that doesn’t fit with the nature of a female which Allah created her by to be different than the nature of men. They believe that they became like men by their good planning, freedom, facing the affairs of life, rivaling for work and being involved in fields specified for men alone and are not suitable except for them and by them.

 

This kind of women faced grave hardships and difficulties beside physical and psychological problems along with abuse and bothering of men who hate being rivaled by other men (imagine their attitudes toward being rivaled by women), moreover they’ve been abused by men. They became outcast, even by other women; their husbands and children hate and detest them.

 

Despite all of that there is severe warning for whoever opposed her Fitra and deserted her feminism and imitated men in clothes, appearance, manners and behaviors. It is narrated in Sahih Al-Bukhari on the authority of Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them) that: “The Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed those men who imitated women and those women who imitate men.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

«لعن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم المتشبهين من الرجال بالنساء، والمتشبهات من النساء بالرجال» رواه البخاري

 

Curse means expel from the mercy of Allah. Also, it is narrated on the authority of ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father too) that: “The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed the effeminate men and the masculine women.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

«لعن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم المخنثين من الرجال والمترجلات من النساء» رواه البخاري

 

Masculine Women are the ones who imitate men in their appearance but in knowledge and opinion it’s a good thing.

 

Salim ibn Abdullah narrated on the authority of his father that the Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Three (types of people) Allah the Exalted the Glorious will not look at them on the Day of Judgment; the disobedient to his parents, the masculine woman and Al-Dayuth (the one that doesn’t have jealousy over his female subjects)” [Reported by An-Nasâi and Al-Albani said it’s good authentic]. And in the narration of Imam Ahmad: “They will not get in Paradise.” And another narration an extension to the definition of ‘masculine woman’ was given: “and the masculine woman that imitates men.”

 

«ثلاثة لا ينظر الله عز وجل إليهم يوم القيامة: العاق لوالديه، والمرأة المترجلة، والديوث» رواه النسائي وقال الألباني: حسن صحيح، وفي رواية الإمام أحمد: «لا يدخلون الجنة» وفي رواية أخرى زاد تعريف المترجلة في قوله: «والمرأة المترجلة المتشبهة بالرجال»

 

From the above mentioned Ahadîth, it is clear that it is forbidden for women to imitate the manners of men; rather it is one of the major sins. Adh-Dhahabi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “Imitating the manners of men by women in clothes or walking or the like is one of the major sins.” She is expelled from the mercy of the Lord of the worlds and cursed by the tongue of the Messenger of Allah. Allah will not look at her, on the Day of Judgment, a look of mercy; neither will she enter Paradise. What a major sin! What a detested crime Allah does not forgive unless there is sincere repentance!

 

Allah, the Exalted the Glorious, prevented the Muslim women from wishing being like men. Also, He prevented men from wishing what is for women, when He Almighty said: {And wish not for the things in which Allâh has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allâh of His Bounty. Surely, Allâh is Ever All-Knower of everything.} [Surat An-Nisâ` 4:32]

 

{وَلاَ تَتَمَنَّوْاْ مَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُواْ وَلِلنِّسَاء نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ وَاسْأَلُواْ اللّهَ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيماً} النساء: 32

 

Transliteration: Wala tatamannaw ma faddala Allahu bihi baAAdakum AAala baAAdin lilrrijali naseebun mimma iktasaboo walilnnisai naseebun mimma iktasabna waisaloo Allaha min fadlihi inna Allaha kana bikulli shayin AAaleeman 


In the saying of Allah Almighty: {And wish not for the things in which Allâh has made some of you to excel others} He meant the worldly affairs as well as the religious affairs. This is declared by ‘Ataa ibn Abu Rabah who said: “It is revealed to declare the prohibition of wishing something relates to someone else and the prohibition of women’s wishing being men to fight in the cause of Allah.” This is narrated by ibn Jarir who added: {For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned} means that everyone has a reward for what he/she does; if it is good the reward will be good, and if it is bad the reward will be bad. This is the saying of ibn Jarir. Then He guided them to what benefits them; He said: {and ask Allâh of His Bounty} which means do not wish what We made as an excel to some of you, because it is destiny, wishing could produce nothing; rather you have to ask Me of My bounty to grant you; indeed, I am the Most Generous, the Real Bestower {Surely, Allâh is Ever All-Knower of everything}.

 

 

Examples of mannish women that imitate the manners of men

 

In the recent times, the examples of the women who imitate the manners of men have become uncountable; they are no longer related to dress only; rather they extended beyond that. The following are some of the characteristics of the mannish woman:

 

1- Imitating the manners of men in the dress: This could be by wearing clothes imitating the manners of men’s dress and wearing trousers, which are originally men’s clothes. It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him): “Cursed the man who wears the dress of the woman and cursed the woman who wears the dress of the man.” [Reported by Abu Dawûd and authenticated by Al-Albani]

 

«لعن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم الرجل يلبس لبسة المرأة، والمرأة تلبس لبسة الرجل» رواه أبو داود وصححه الألباني

 

The same is applied to wearing shoes resembles the shoes of men. And it was said to Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) that a woman wears men’s shoes; whereupon she said: “The Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed the mannish woman.” [Reported by Abu Dawûd and authenticated by Al-Albani]

 

«لعن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم الرجلة من النساء» رواه أبو داود وصححه الألباني

 

Unfortunately, strange ugly designed shoes invaded the markets; and the sellers pretend that they are women’s shoes. Such shoes are bought by women although the sane person disdains wearing them. And it is Allah (Alone) Whose help can be sought against that.

 

2- Not holding fast to the right Hijab (i.e. face’s veil along with wide cloak gets down from the top of the head). It is substituted by see-through veil and embroidered cloak put on the shoulders. In fact, such Hijab reveals instead of covering. Sometimes, the woman wears something called “Kaap” reveals the shape of woman’s body as if it were man’s dress. Such “kaap” may be embroidered or see-through. Moreover, the woman may not care for veiling her body or face; she reveals parts of her dress and sometimes she indifferently reveals her face.

 

Adh-Dhahabi (may Allah mercy him) said: “Among the acts that woman may be cursed because of them are making the ornament, gold or jewels apparent, although their being behind the veil, and wearing perfume when leaving the house and wearing colored clothes, skirts, silk, short blouses, very lengthened dress, very wide and long sleeves when leaving the house. All such things are considered as unveil is detested by Allah Who detests their doer in the worldly life and Hereafter too.”

 

3- Going out of the house repeatedly without necessity: This could be with the company of a driver or in taxi or by a car she drives (in many countries) or on foot (even if she was going to a far place). Such a woman goes and comes repeatedly without caring for the house or children on the pretension of fulfilling the needs of the house; although such needs could be fulfilled by any man in the house.

 

4- Mixing with men in the markets and public places: Actually, some women do not feel shame of standing in one waiting line with men and entering and sitting between men, especially in the shops. Also, they may talk with the sellers as they talk with their unmarriageable men and buy and sell by themselves. One of the definitions of the mannish woman states that “She is the woman that imitates the manners of men in movement, speech and mixes with the men along with such things.”

 

5- Raising the voice and having argumentation with men in loud voice could be heard by any passer, although the characteristics of the woman include talking in low voice and not talking to marriageable men. Actually, the definition of the mannish woman includes “Resembling men … or imitating their voice.”

 

6- Imitating the manners of men in their walk and every move: She may walk in the roads and markets like men and imitate the manners of men which manifest the strength and toughness. Furthermore, some women went to the degree of having membership in the clubs of karate and athletics.

 

7- Toughness in the interactions and manners, like men, in her house and with her relatives: She is stubborn, rude and dictatorial does not appreciate or respect anybody. Such characteristics are low to the man; then what about them for the woman!

 

8- Deserting the adornment of women (e.g. henna, kohl … etc): Her appearance and style is like that of men. ‘A`ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said that a woman delivered a letter to the Messenger of Allah from behind a curtain. When the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) took the letter, he said: “I do not know if this hand is for a man or woman!” The woman said: “It is a hand of a woman.” Whereupon the Prophet said: “If you were a woman, you would change (the color of) your fingernails.” He meant using henna [Reported by Abu Dawûd and Al-Albani declared it as good]

 

«أومت امرأة من وراء ستر بيدها كتاب إلى رسول الله فقبض النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يده فقال: ما أدري أيد رجل أم يد امرأة قالت: بل امرأة قال: لو كنت امرأة لغيرت أظفارك ـ يعني بالحناء» رواه أبو داود وحسنه الألباني

 

9- Imitating the manners of men in the appearance and style: This could be by cutting the hair like men and letting the fingernails grow, standing and sitting like men and such things.

 

10- Rejecting the guardianship of the husband or the curator: She rejects being under the guardianship of a man or curator; she wants the absolute freedom with no permission or respect to the man of the house.

 

11- Setting on a journey without the company of unmarriageable man (Mahram): This could be by any means of transportation such as the plane; it is she who buys the ticket, goes to the airport and travels without the company of unmarriageable man to protect her from the evil people. She violates the laws of the religion and good manners; although the Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No woman could set on journey unless there is unmarriageable man with her.” [Agreed upon]

 

«لا تسافر المرأة إلا مع ذي محرم» متفق عليه

 

She seeks the false freedom! How much harm and bothering happen to such woman because of not having unmarriageable man with her!

 

12- Not feeling shame: The mannish woman had taken shyness off her personality and manners; she became like a tree has no cortex, so it perishes in short time. The mannish woman talks in every subject and to all people; she goes to every place with no shyness or morals. The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Among the sayings of the previous prophets that people still know; ‘If you did not feel shame, you could do whatever you like.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

«إن مما أدرك الناس من كلام النبوة الأولى إذا لم تستح فاصنع ما شئت» صحيح البخاري

 

These are the most prominent characteristics of the mannish woman (according to my point of view) that unfortunately spread between many of our women.

 

From these mentioned characteristics we could deduce comprehensive definition to the mannish woman; “She is the woman that imitate the manners of men in dress, style, walk, talk, loudness of voice, move and mixing with men.”

 

 

Reasons of imitating the characteristics of men by women

 

There are several reasons for that could be summarized in the following points:

 

1- Lack of faith and not fearing Allah much: This is because committing the sins, whether they are major or minor, is a result to the lack of faith and not watching (knowing your being watched) Allah (the Exalted the Glorious) well; the Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “When an adulterer commits illegal sexual intercourse, then he is not a believer at the time he is doing it; and when somebody drinks an alcoholic drinks, then he is not a believer at the time of drinking, and when a thief steals, he is not a believer at the time when he is stealing; and when a robber robs and people look at him, then he is not a believer at the time of doing it.” [Agreed upon]

 

«لا يزني الزاني حين يزني وهو مؤمن، ولا يشرب الخمر حين يشرب وهو مؤمن، ولا يسرق السارق حين يسرق وهو مؤمن، ولا ينتهب نهبة يرفع الناس إليه فيها أبصارهم وهو مؤمن» متفق عليه

 

Surly, the woman who imitates the manners of men has imperfect faith; she is deluded by Satan to commit a major sin its prohibition is narrated repeatedly on the authority of the Prophet; as we mentioned above.

 

2- Imperfect upbringing: It is said that the person is the child of his environment; if it was good environment, he/she would be a good person. On the other hand; if it was bad environment, he/she would be bad person. Therefore; the girl, that lives in a house dominated by chaos and has no righteous upbringing, is liable to deviation. And among the shapes of deviation is imitating men and doing acts against the nature and etiquettes of women; there is no faith to deter or sound upbringing to prevent or righteous curator to take her away from the evil manner and guide her to the straightway.

 

3- Media: In media, the stray aberrant ideas, which deviate women and incite her to rebel against religion, sound principles and reject the authority of man (as they pretend), are propagated and diffused. Moreover, media incite women to ask for their right in act and freedom. Also, media show profligate clothes along with clothes resemble the clothes of men under the title of ‘Fashion’. Actually, many women were affected with these shows neglecting the principles of religion, good manners and men’s guardianship; they imitated the manners and behaviors of the dissolute women with no consideration or differentiating between the good and evil. Now, there is a kind of women that have the shape of women along with men’s clothes, behaviors and manners! Verily, they are the mannish women!

 

4- Blind imitation: She dresses and acts with no consideration or thinking in what she does; she does not think in the benefits or harms of what she does. In fact, she imitates the friends or actresses, even if this was against her nature.

 

5- Bad company: Surly, the friend has great influence on the personality of whom he associates; it may be positive or negative influence. The most truthful man, our prophet Muhammad (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him), said: “The similitude of good company and that of bad company is that of the owner of musk and of the one (iron-smith) who blows bellows. The owner of musk would either offer you free of charge or you would buy it from him or you would smell its pleasant odor. And so far as the one who blows the bellows is concerned, he would either burn your clothes or you shall have to smell its repugnant smell.” [Agreed upon]

 

«مثل الجليس الصالح والجليس السوء كحامل المسك ونافخ الكير، فحامل المسك إما أن يحذيك وإما أن تبتاع منه، وإما أن تجد منه ريحاً طيبة، ونافخ الكير إما أن يحرق ثيابك وإما أن تجد ريحاً خبيثة» متفق عليه

 

The woman who sits with the mannish women will surely be affected by their appearance and behavior, as compliment or imitation, in order not to be abnormal to them.

 

6- Feeling inferiority or desiring attracting attention: Some women feel inferiority; so they try to cure that by imitating the manners of men in appearance and behavior. Others imitate the manners of men just to attract attention; they may do so by combing the hair like men or wearing men’s clothes, trousers and caps or walking in the market and public places in a strange way attracting attention.

 

7- Bad role models: Role model is one of the most important elements of upbringing. The mother may be mannish; hence, her daughters may follow her. In most cases, daughters earn their personalities from their mothers; the mother who does not appreciate the father or does not respect him usually produces daughters do not appreciate their husbands. Also, the woman who talks toughly and raises her voice produces a daughter that has the same characteristic. The same is applicable to assuming the manners of men and the other characteristics. This is what is told by the most truthful man, our prophet Muhammad. It is narrated on the authority of Abu Hurayra that the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Every child is born with a true faith (i.e. to worship none but Allah Alone) but his parents convert him to Judaism or to Christianity or to Magianism, as an (the like of an) animal delivers a perfect baby animal. Do you find it mutilated?” [Reported by Al-Bukhari]

 

«كل مولود يولد على الفطرة فأبواه يهودانه أو ينصرانه أو يمجسانه كمثل البهيمة تنتج البهيمة هل ترى فيها جدعاء» رواه البخاري

 

Also, there may be a mannish role model to the girl among her relatives or those whom she admires most.

 

8- Not having the jealousy of her husband or curator: He may not prevent her from violating Allah’s orders that relate to the Hijab and dress nor does he prevent her from actions are not suitable for her (e.g. having argumentations with men). Sometimes you see the husband or the brother watches acts are contrary to shyness and good manners without feeling any jealousy; although the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Three (types of people) Allah the Exalted the Glorious will not look at them on the Day of Judgment; the disobedient to his parents, masculine woman and Al-Dayuth (the one that doesn’t have jealousy over his female subjects).” [Reported by An-Nasâ`i and Al-Albani said it’s good authentic]

 

«ثلاثة لا ينظر الله عز وجل إليهم يوم القيامة: العاق لوالديه، والمرأة المترجلة، والديوث» رواه النسائي وقال الألباني حسن صحيح

 

 

These are the most important reasons of assuming the characteristics of men by women, and here are some Fatawa about that:

 

Q: What is the ruling of cutting the hair of a girl to the limits of her shoulders for beautification, whether she is married or not?

 

A: If cutting the hair of a woman resembles that of men, it is forbidden and a major sin; because the Prophet cursed the women who imitate the manners of men. On the other hand; if the cutting does not reach the extent of resembling men, the scholars differed about its ruling into three opinions: some said that it is permissible, others said that its forbidden and others said that it is detestable. As for the school of Imam Ahmad; its being detestable is the most authentic opinion. However, we should not receive any habit that comes to us from abroad; because from near time, we used to see women boast of the intensity and length of their hair. But nowadays; we see them follow a foreign custom. In fact, I do not deny every new thing; rather I deny everything that makes the society goes to customs of non-Muslims. (As`illa Muhimma (Important Questions), by Sheikh Ibn Uthaymin)

 

Sheikh Abdullah ibn Jibrîn (may Allah guard him) was asked about the ruling of putting on the bright colored clothes (e.g. yellow, white, red … etc) that cover the body completely

 

Whereupon he answered: A woman is allowed to wear any women’s wear, regardless of the color. However; she is not allowed to wear the clothes that are specially for men, because it is narrated that the Prophet cursed the women who imitate the manners of men and vice versa.

 

Also, he was asked about lengthening the fingernails for beautification

 

Whereupon he said: It is not permissible to lengthen the fingernails; rather we are ordered to clip the nails every week or forty days as maximum. (Fatawa Al-Mar`ah)

 

And the permanent committee for Fatwa in KSA was asked about the ruling of women’s wearing tight and white clothes.

 

Whereupon the committee answered: Woman are not allowed to appear before the marriageable men or get out to the street or markets while wearing tight clothes show her body to whoever looks at her; because this makes her like the naked one and rises infatuation and causes grave evil. Also, she is not allowed to wear white clothes, if wearing white is the custom of men in her country; because this is imitating the manners of men, and the Prophet cursed the women who imitate the manners of men. (The permanent committee for Fatwa)

 

 

Remedy of masculinity

 

Unfortunately, this phenomenon began to spread in the communities of women, especially in the faculties and schools of girls. Even worse, the mannish girls chase the other girls and bother them. Also, there are women who took off the cloak of chastity and the dress of shyness in the public places and other places. Therefore; it is necessary to display the remedy to stop this grave phenomenon. The remedy includes:

 

1- The righteous upbringing: A girl should be taught the obedience of Allah (the Exalted the Glorious), the sound creed and the etiquettes of the purified religion from the phase of childhood, in order to have her raised on faith and good manners. The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “He who is involved (in the responsibility) of (bringing up) daughters, and he accords benevolent treatment towards them, they would be protection for him from Hellfire.” [Agreed upon]

 

«من يلي من هذه البنات شيئاً فأحسن إليهن كن له ستراً من النار» متفق عليه

 

Also, it is narrated on the authority of Abu Sa’îd Al-Khudri that the Messenger of Allah (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “He who had three daughters or three sisters or two daughters or two sisters and accorded benevolent treatment towards them and feared Allah in his dealing with them, he will be rewarded with Paradise.” [Reported by At-Tirmithi]

 

«من كان له ثلاث بنات أو ثلاث أخوات أو ابنتان أو أختان فأحسن صحبتهن واتقى الله فيهن فله الجنة» رواه الترمذي

 

2- The good model: It could be in the house in the mother who adorns herself with the good manners and deals with the father in politeness and talks to him in respect and never talks to marriageable men and lowers her voice whenever it is necessary to do that and holds fast to the right Hijab, shyness and good manners whenever she gets out the house. Also, this could be found in the girl’s feminine community that includes sisters and friends that have good manners and shyness.

 

3- Making the right Hijab incumbent upon the girl and woman and not allowing them to wear what is contrary to this (e.g. wearing kaap, embroidered cloak, unlawful veil … etc).

 

4- Not allowing the woman to get out without necessity: If she got out with the driver of the family, there should be unmarriageable man with her along with knowing to where she will go and when she will return; this is for care, not suspect.

 

5- Preventing her from assuming the manners of men; whether they are in the dress or appearance. Furthermore; her clothes should look like the clothes of women.

 

6- When going to the markets and buying; it is desirable for the unmarriageable man (who accompanies the woman) to ask about the goods that she intends to purchase and bargain with the seller instead of her, to guard her shyness.

 

7- Trusting the wisdom of Allah Almighty in His creation: Trusting that Allah Almighty created the man with characteristics enabling him to fulfill his required job as He Almighty created the woman with different characteristics to enable her to fulfill her required job. Also, the woman should know that when she tries to desert her characteristics and acquire the characteristics of men, she will face grave hardships and difficulties in the worldly life and Hereafter too. Allah Almighty said: {And wish not for the things in which Allâh has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allâh of His Bounty. Surely, Allâh is Ever All-Knower of everything.} [Surat An-Nisâ` 4:32]

 

{وَلاَ تَتَمَنَّوْاْ مَا فَضَّلَ اللّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُواْ وَلِلنِّسَاء نَصِيبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ وَاسْأَلُواْ اللّهَ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِنَّ اللّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيماً} النساء:32

 

Transliteration: Wala tatamannaw ma faddala Allahu bihi baAAdakum AAala baAAdin lilrrijali naseebun mimma iktasaboo walilnnisai naseebun mimma iktasabna waisaloo Allaha min fadlihi inna Allaha kana bikulli shayin AAaleeman (32)

 

 

Dear kind sister;

 

Beware of having this characteristic that our Messenger warned us from and cursed whoever had it (i.e. mannish). Beware of assuming the manners of men; it is a characteristic disdained by the faithful woman who believes in her Lord and is sure about meeting Him on the Final Day.

 

The Muslim woman is distinguished from the other women by characteristics and manners guard her religion and self. These characteristics include shyness, lowering the voice, staying at the house and holding fast to the right Hijab. If she did what she is imposed to do and abstained from what she is forbidden to do, she would deserve the great reward from Allah Almighty and He would get her in Paradise by His Mercy. He, the Exalted the Glorious, said: {And whoever does righteous good deeds, male or female, and is a (true) believer [in the Oneness of Allâh (Muslim)], such will enter Paradise and not the least injustice, even to the size of a speck on the back of a date-stone, will be done to them} [Surat An-Nisâ` 4:124]

 

{وَمَن يَعْمَلْ مِنَ الصَّالِحَاتَ مِن ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَأُوْلَـئِكَ يَدْخُلُونَ الْجَنَّةَ وَلاَ يُظْلَمُونَ نَقِيراً} النساء: 124

 

Transliteration: Waman yaAAmal mina alssalihati min thakarin aw ontha wahuwa muminun faolaika yadkhuloona aljannata wala yuthlamoona naqeeran (124)

 

On the other hand; if she violated His order, she would deserve the punishment. Allah Almighty said: {Whosoever does an evil deed, will not be requited except the like thereof; and whosoever does a righteous deed, whether male or female and is a true believer (in the Oneness of Allâh), such will enter Paradise, where they will be provided therein (with all things in abundance) without limit.} [Surat Ghâfir 40:40]

 

{مَنْ عَمِلَ سَيِّئَةً فَلَا يُجْزَى إِلَّا مِثْلَهَا وَمَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحاً مِّن ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَأُوْلَئِكَ يَدْخُلُونَ الْجَنَّةَ يُرْزَقُونَ فِيهَا بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ} غافر:40

 

Transliteration: Man AAamila sayyiatan fala yujza illa mithlaha waman AAamila salihan min thakarin aw ontha wahuwa muminun faolaika yadkhuloona aljannata yurzaqoona feeha bighayri hisabin (40)

 

O Allah, make us among those who listen to the word and follow the best thereof. O Allah, guide us to the best words and deeds. And prayers and peace of Allah be upon our prophet Muhammad and his family and companions and whoever righteously followed them till the Day of Judgment.

 

 

Hammoud ibn Ibrahim Al-Salim

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